Covenant Ash, Signatory: Name Your Terms
“Name Your Terms” became a pillow because I wanted the provision to live where life actually happens: on couches, beds, chairs—places where we negotiate our days in half-whispers, where decisions get made while someone is tired, hungry, or trying not to start a fight. The point is not decoration; it’s placement. A pillow is a domestic witness: it hears the same conversations again and again, absorbs the pause before the apology, sits beside the unsent text, and stays put when people flee the room.
So I chose a soft object with a sharp function—something you can touch while you practice saying the sentence that changes everything: Here are the terms. This is not “merch” as slogan; it’s a household provision—an environmental cue that trains the nervous system toward explicit consent, versioning, repair, and renewal. (And yes: the line is also a dare. If you can name your terms, you can stop auditioning for love inside someone else’s unspoken contract.) (riseofwampus.org)
A soft object with a sharp function: a reminder that consent isn’t a mood—it’s an agreement you can name, revise, and keep. “Name Your Terms” is a pocket-provision for the home: place it where conversations happen, where decisions get made, where your yes and no deserve to be spoken clearly.
Use it as a prompt before hard talks, new collaborations, boundary-setting, repair, or renewal: What are the terms? What does yes mean? What happens if those terms are broken? What version are we living in now?
Put it where hard conversations happen.
Before you decide: name the terms, name the version, name repair.
Revisit weekly: renew, revise, or revoke—explicitly.
Provision: Name your terms. Signatory: Covenant Ash
“A household provision for clear agreements.”
• 100% polyester case and insert
• Fabric weight: 6.49–7.37 oz./yd.² (220–250 g/m²)
• Hidden zipper
• Machine-washable case
• Shape-retaining polyester insert included (handwash only)
• Blank product components in the US sourced from China and Mexico
• Blank product components in the EU sourced from China and Poland